IN 1978 a band from
Birmingham burst onto the music scene. With their catchy synthesised
pop songs, make up, lavish videos and pin up looks, the five young
men that made up Duran Duran were a hit from the get go.
Number 1s in countries
across the world, 100 million records sold, more awards than you can
shake a stick at and a jet set lifestyle were all par for the course.
Indeed they epitomised
the New Romantic era of British pop and the excesses of the 1980s
enjoying huge financial and artistic success.
However behind all the
glamour and fast living, for bass player John Taylor, things were not
so rosy.
He was battling alcohol
and drug addictions and by his own admission was behaving in a way he
would never have done had he been sober.
But one day he realised
he'd had enough and checked himself into a US rehab centre in
Arizona. It was, he says, a turning point, and thanks to the centre's
approach to tackling peoples' addictions, he's not looked back.
Now, 19 years sober and
counting he has become patron of Mount Carmel, a drug and alcohol
treatment centre in Aldrington Road, Streatham.
Headed up by chief
executive Ruth Allonby, Mount Carmel has been running its successful
and specialist detox management and counselling programmes for the
best part of 26 years.
Offering family support
groups, housing support and, crucially, free aftercare, the 18-bed
residential centre also advocates the 12-Step programme John credits
with turning his life around.
It has seen more than
1,000 people from all walks of life pass through its doors and boasts
a success rate of about 65 per cent.
Yet despite its
success, many don't know of its existence. They hope this will change
with John's involvement.
"I was really
struck by his infectious enthusiasm for the 12-Step programme when I
heard him speak at last summer's UKESAD [UK/European Symposium on
Addictive Disorders] conference," says Ruth.
"The story of his
recovery from addiction was compelling so I was bowled over when he
said he would come and talk to our clients and even more so when he
agreed to be patron.
"He has been a few
times and we've all been struck by how down to earth he is. He just
speaks from the heart, and his own experience, and it's been an
incredibly positive experience."
But although as we talk
it's clear his passion for the work the centre does is real and
genuine, John says he was initially cautious about getting involved.
"It wasn't an easy
decision to say yes to," he says. "I was wary as it
requires a huge amount of commitment and you can't do these things
half-heartedly and I wanted to do it justice.
"But it's quite an
extraordinary place. It's really down to earth, and does an amazing
amount of good work changing peoples' lives for the better.
"I've been to
speak to some of the clients there and was impressed by the warm and
friendly atmosphere there. They advocate the 12-Step programme which
I believe in and get results and the fact the staff care so much. So
I'm really pleased to be part of it."
Warm, friendly and
completely open about his past, the 53-year-old has a refreshing
honesty and frankness about his addictions.
"I'm just one of
those people who can't just have one or two drinks and then stop,"
he explains. "I wasn't in the gutter and drinking every day but
when I did I just didn't have an off button and so ended up drinking
to excess. It was the same with the drugs.
"I was just so
miserable but hadn't put it down to the drugs and alcohol. I
couldn't cope with life. I'd lost the map and was very unhappy,"
he remembers.
"It was isolating
- I thought I had a string of issues but I didn't want to deal with
them. You think you have got bipolar anxiety with all of these things
going on but actually it's just this disease.
"It just got
ridiculous though."
So he decided to get
clean.... but he says it wasn't easy.
"It's one thing to
check yourself in. It's quite another to come out at the end and be
strong enough to start living your life.
"It's also very
hard for family and friends because you come out a completely
different person. And they have to deal with that change.
"You realise you
can't rely on your family and friends. Very few people appreciate
what it is to be a struggling alcoholic. It changes things. The
family that has been begging you to get help is now struggling with
the new sober you."
For John it ended
happily which is why he's so keen to help promote the Mount Carmel
programme.
"From my
experience it's the only one that really offers that kind of turn
around that people are looking for.
"It makes you
acknowledge that drug and alcohol addiction are diseases which can
affect anyone," he says. "It's important to buy into that.
It enables you to put aside all of the blame which is very important.
It took me a while to get that idea, partly as I was raised a
Catholic and there are certain things you buy into and don't
question.
"It made sense
though because no one I knew was having the same issues like me. They
didn't have a problem stopping drinking and had a degree of control.
There had to be something different about me so it made sense that
this was a disease. It's just part of my genetic make up.
"The 12-Step
programme was my saviour in a way and has helped me live my life
again."
But he rejects the idea
that it's "culty".
"It does sound a
bit culty," he laughs. "But it's really not. It's a
programme that works. I'm living proof.
"It opens the door
to healing which allows you to get on top of the other issues.
"It's about
getting people through the door, bringing them out of the isolation
they feel and connecting them with others who have the same problems.
"It's about
abstinence. I am an all-or-nothing person and I feel abstinence is
where it's at. It's a clean break.
"It's very
challenging and a gradual process but you have to keep going,"
he adds.
"What's really
amazing about Mount Carmel is they are with you every step which is
so important.
"And afterwards
they are still there to support you which is exactly what you need
and it's so reassuring.
"There is such an
enormous amount of information and a tool kit which are the resources
to help you when you want to scratch the itch - when you've had a
fight with your wife, lost your job, when life is just happening and
you want to reach for a drink.
"Life is so
challenging for most of us in one way or another so you have to have
an alternative to reaching for that drink and that's what Mount
Carmel teaches you."
And he's clear there
need to be more places like Mount Carmel.
"Mount Carmel is a
fantastic place. I am not a politician but I feel if the government
is going to spend money on rehab or on people with problems they need
to do it right," he says.
"People can offer
so much and I think that's why if there was an argument for more
money or government intervention it's that.
"It's a life
change but it's so worth it. To get clean and begin again, build a
sober foundation and have an extraordinary life.
"I can only say
from my experience. People can become very useful members of society
and it's in everyone's interests to help as many people to get
sober."
And he admits since his
stint in rehab, life has been good.
"Life is amazing,"
he says warmly. "I love my job, the band and my family and I'm
working with the band on a new album which is great.
"I am a realist
not a romantic but I feel like I got the golden ticket when I went to
rehab. It's a difficult thing to communicate with people without it
sounding a bit freaky," he adds laughing.
"I just want to
tell people it's actually a tremendously noble step towards a better
life. It's about debunking the negative mystique around rehab.
"I am hopeful
though. Thousands of people have found a way. But people have to be
prepared to pick up the phone and call Mount Carmel. No one can do
that for you.
"You have to walk
through the door and take that step yourself. It's never too late to
turn your life around."
Visit
www.mountcarmel.org.uk for information.
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